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A workplace romance

By Cathy Francois, Guest Contributor

Some years ago I met a gentleman with whom I had an incredible number of things in common. We even had the same major in college and our initial conversation seemed like the making of a great dating relationship. But apparently we were a little too much alike because I also found out that he would be starting a new job the very next day. And out of all places it was the company that I was currently working for in the same department. I asked myself, “What should I do?” Early in my career I had sworn that I would never date anyone in the workplace. This interesting coincidence put me in a dilemma. Should I bring everything to a halt or proceed with caution? And, how are workplace romances viewed in today’s workplace anyway?

According to a Workplace Options survey, how it may be viewed depends on your age.  84 percent of Millennial workers (ages 18-29) say they would have a romantic relationship with a co-worker, compared to just 36 percent of Generation X workers (ages 30-46) and 29 percent of Baby Boomers (age 47-66). Management columnist and author of In Office Hours, Lucy Kellaway says, “It’s one of the worst decisions you can possibly make. Office romances are… complicated and unprofessional.” Whether your point of view is new school or old school here are a few things to consider:

What is your company policy? Some companies have rigid policies against workplace fraternization either with those you work with internally or external clients, and, should you be considering intra-office courtship, it’s important to know what those policies are.

What is the corporate culture? Look around– your workplace may not be the best place to hook up. Are there couples married as a result of meeting in the workplace or is there an unspoken rule that makes dating colleagues taboo?

What are the long-term effects? In the beginning the thought may seem rosy. But could a relationship bring on real or perceived favoritism, which could lead co-workers to feel scorn, or worse yet, consider a lawsuit?

The dynamics of a romantic relationship in the workplace can prove to be complex and there are certainly many more questions to consider than those listed above. Just remember: In the workplace, with the matters of the heart, be smart.

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